Me pēhea te ki te ite i takatāpui: hōkakatanga me te whanonga

I te tahi taime e mea faufaa ia te whai i te kōrero tika e pā ana ki te tangata ngā. Hei tauira, i roto i te tikanga ki te whakatau mehemea ki te tukua ia i roto i to koutou porohita pāpori kore ranei, ahakoa ki te whai ia ia mo te mahi te whakamanawanui i te mahi pera ranei. Mō kore e taea te whakawakia te iwi anake i runga i etahi āhuatanga o ratou whanonga, kia whakaaro ratou huru i roto i te taatoaraa. Next, whakaaro tatou i tenei taipitopito nui, rite takotoranga me ngā tikanga mo tona faaotiraa fakasekisualé.

Ki te kei te kotiro ataahua koe, koutou kia miharo ai he aha te tangata e rite koe, koutou i kore e whakarongo. Pea e tetahi atu ia? ranei noa e kore te mea hiahia te wahine ia? Ko te whakahoki ki tēnei pātai, kia tauturu ia koe i whakaora i te rota o te wā. Ranei, ki te kei te taata, a ko te kupu i te takotoranga i koe mea katoa i roto i te tikanga ki a koutou, ka hiahia ai koutou ki te karo i whakapā ki te "puru"? Ranei, pea, i runga i te anga ke, e hiahia ana koe ki te whakatau rite-whakaaro? Ko tupu rawa. Ki te hiahia i roto i te whakahoki ki tetahi o enei pātai koutou, ko tenei tuhinga hoki koutou. Na, kia kōrero a pā ana ki te pehea, ki te mohio ki takatāpui.

Ko te tohu tuatahi - he tuhipoka tiketike: ki te kei koe te taata, a kite koutou pehea atu te tane, i mua rawa unknown, e whakaatu ana koe i te moni ohorere, me te rarata. Hei tauira, ki te riro i te kapa rawa hou tenei tangata ki te kōrero ki a koutou, kua nui ake i te tahi me te tahi atu mau taata. Noatia, e kore te mea he take ki te whakaaro ia he "puru" tenei. Engari tirohia ko reira utu. Me pēhea te ki te mahi i te reira? titiro roa me te pakeke ki a ia. Ki te mea ko koe te tangata tau'a ki reira (rite kia waiho te reira i roto i tenei take), ka titiro i te reira i roto i te torutoru hēkona ka tango i te taha. Otiia ki te haere tonu te whakamātautau hoki ki te wa roa titiro tika i roto i te kanohi, me te Whakahekea ratou, Ko te tohu tuatahi tenei. Ko te tohu taea tuarua - he ataata. tangata noa, kōrero ki ia atu, he mea tino maha ngaro. kia malimali ratou ina mea e tika ai te reira - ki te haamana'oraa e minaminatia ana, ranei i muri i te kata angitu.

Me pēhea te ki te ite i takatāpui? Noatia, hoki te tangata ki nei tutaki ia. Ki te pai te parenga wahine, tenei "waenganui". Ki te, i runga i te anga ke, pai ia tangata, na te tangata i huaina "takatāpui." Ko tino korero, i reira e rua atu take nui e ka mea te rota e pā ana ki a ia. ki te te marenatia ia? E whai ia he kaumeá? Ki te korero tatou e pā ana ki te tangata e he kua 28-30 tau, nga whakautu ki ēnei pātai e tino āhuatanga reira. O te akoranga, i reira ko te pea e ko te reira i poto kore i roto i te hononga i te taurangi o te viivii ranei, ranei ara ko te turoro. Ko reira he tetahi kē ki enei whakapae, i te mea inaianei e kore e nohinohi, e kore anake i roto i whenua kātaki i Europa ko Amerika, engari ano hoki i roto i to tatou whenua.

Te whakautu ki te pātai e pā ana ki te pehea, ki te mohio ki te tangata pai, he reira ia tapao e nui o te tangata ki te mea i tona ahua. E whai ia he whakakai i roto i tona taringa matau (i te iti rawa - ki te maui)? Ahakoa kei te rapu ia mo te rawa āta? E ia ētahi wā tamata ki te tiki i mua o te ahua? Ahakoa kakahu Nui me rerekē? He reira he mowhiti i runga i tona maihao iti? ki te hiahia ia ki te haere mo te waenganui, engari ka korero e pā ana ki nga wahine hoatu whakautu banal rawa, e whakaatu ana anake i te kore o te wheako? Ko te whakautu ki ēnei pātai e āwhina i roto i tenei raruraru, me pehea ki te mohio ki takatāpui.

Ko te hunga e kite i tenei tuhinga, ko reira e tika ana ki te whakahere te tahi mea atu ki te whakaaro e pā ana ki te mea ahua o ngā mōhiohio. Ki te he taitamariki koe, a kihai i ia koutou he wheako taua, he mea utu ki te titiro mo te hoa o te sex taua rite koe? Rawa, ka whakaaro koutou e founga e taea te pānga pā koutou kiritau-, whaiaro-whakawhirinaki, me te ara te papamuri hormonal o te rauropi. E ai ki ngā tatauranga, i roto i te Hononga o Amerika, kia taitamariki tangata takatāpui ake he ōrau iti o te taupori, engari kia ratou tetahi tuatoru o whakamomori katoa. Oia mau, e kore te mea e he ora pai, meatia enei iwi e. Gays taiohi ki whitu nga wa atu pea ki te mahi i te whakamomori atu i ō rātou hoa. Ko reira huatau ki te mea i taua takatāpui - he noa tenei. Otiia i roto i te meka e maha i te reira e pā ana ki ngā raruraru nui - e rua hauora me te hinengaro.