"Täoke" auhoaraa: he aha kia whakarere koutou i te reira?

Iwi he mea ere pāpori. Te nuinga o tatou e aroha ki te waiho i roto i te rōpū ngangau o hoa me whanaunga. taea tēnei ki a tatou i ngahau me te wahi wheako. He fakatātā pai o tenei au ko te pahūtanga tata i roto i te rongonui o whatunga pāpori. Ka rite ki a koutou e taea te kite, e vēkeveke ki taunekeneke iwi, me te mātātoa te rapu hoki ngā o whakapā ki ia atu.

Ta Dr. Arthur Aron, kaiwhakahaere o te taiwhanga o whanaunga waenga i te Whare Wānanga o Stony awa: "Ko tino nui mō te hauora tangata whanaunga Friendly, a kahore he poitirere tenei. He maha rangahau e kua whakaaturia he hononga ki waenganui i waiaro me āhua aronganui.

Ko te hiahia mo te kōmitimiti pāpori

Kei te pera Neuroscientists whakamahia ki te whakamārama i te hiahia te tangata mō te aroha: kua puta to tatou roro tukanga kunenga e āhua etahi tikanga e whakahaere te hiahia ki te uru i roto i ngā rōpū pāpori. Na, i roto i te uho kaka o te roro ko reira he rohe huaina te neocortex, kiri hou ranei. I roto i te tangata, he nui atu atu i roto i te tahi atu kararehe tenei tari. Neocortex he kawenga mo te whakaongaonga o teitei hinengaro pāpori, aroha, te kaha ki te mahino te mau mana'o, me whakaaro o ētahi atu. Kia aroha mai, Kei te ruarua whakawhanakehia tenei āhuatanga i roto i te tahi mau iwi.

tuakiri counterproductive

Ahakoa tokomaha taunakitanga neurobiological ki te tautuhi i te hiahia o te tangata i roto i te kōmitimiti pāpori, mea ratou tetahi mea e pā ana ki te hiahia o te iwi ki te whakapūmau hoki i ngā hononga hauora. Ko, rite matou e matau nei, kia counterproductive mo to tatou hauora hinengaro, me te tinana ētahi atu. Heoi i reira e "iwi paitini" - hoa, paihana to tatou oraraa, a kua whakaaro anake ki o ratou hiahia. He aha kia kore koe ki te kōrero ki te tangata taua? Hoki te tīmatanga titiro tatou ki te mea ko te "paitini" auhoaraa.

He aha te mea he "paitini" auhoaraa?

Hei mōhio ana i roto i tona hoa huru taata counterproductive, whakahoki i te tahi mau uiraa ohie:

• hanga hari koe tou hoa?
• taruke reira ki a koe te tiki pai?
• kōrero te reira ki a koutou, me te "i roto i te pouri, me te i roto i te hari"?
• He koe faitotonu ki tou hoa, noa'tu te pakeke ko reira?
• E kite pea i roto ia koutou i tenei tangata, ara, ki te kahore koutou e kite i?
• ki te faaho'i ia koutou ki runga?

Ki te whakahoki koe tōraro ki te nuinga o ngā pātai, ko to koutou hoa he māngai rongonui o te iwi "paitini".

taea ki te kino ia koutou tenei tangata ko a kahore e tatarahapa. Ka titau tonu ia koutou manakohia i waho whakahere tetahi i roto i te hoki. kōrero te reira ki a koutou mo te painga o, no te mea i whakamahia e ia ki te tango i te wa katoa, engari atrophied te mahi kōaro. I roto i te kōrero ko reira e pängia ana ki te Käre e te whakarahi whakaari, me te oioi kare kino huri noa ia. ana mahi katoa, me tauākī tino pehi te ariā o "auhoaraa". He he kotahi "engari": i kore he ngāwari ki te pehea o te auhoaraa counterproductive. piri tou hoa ki a koe, ano te ngate. Ka tamata ia e ki te oaoa i to koutou manakohia tonu tikanga katoa.

Ngakau ārai whanaunga wehewehe

e matau ana hoa paitini koutou paruparu katoa. Ko pai te mōhio o koutou mau maitai e kore e e kia whatiia koe atu whanaunga ki te tangata i tetahi atu kotahi me mo te katoa ia. Ka tu koe ia taha hoki o te aroha, te atawhai tohu ranei. I te tahi taime e taea e koe te taupoki ana i te wehi e ka meinga e koe te whakarerenga o kōrero kino ki taua tangata. Na ka timata koe ki te whakatika i te mahi me tumu o tona hoa, attributing ki a ia huru maitatai e kore e e te tīariari. Ko te aha, ki te titiro tatou ki te āhuatanga i te koki rerekē? ki te wahia i runga i te "paitini" hoa tonu koe, a taea unga pūngao pai i roto i te aronga pai. He pono i reira he nui ake te iwi pai i roto i to koutou taiao.

Ka rite ki enei iwi e pau koutou ora?

I roto i te iwi counter-hua i te rota o ngā āhuatanga kino. Ko tētahi o ratou ko te āhuatanga o kukume i tona porohita roto pūngao pai. I roto i te meka, he ratou vampires pūngao. E pai ki te hoatu ake etahi o ratou rauemi ā-ki te tangata e kore e whakawhetai koutou mo reira koutou? Altruism - he reira kounga pai, engari anake ki te hunga e hiahia āwhina tino. Ki te korero tatou e pā ana ki opportunists, mahi ratou rite He toimaha nui, e maoro, e whakaroa koe ki te hohonu.

Hanga he kōwhiringa matau

Wareware e pā ana ki whakaaro tūmatanui, me te toenga o koutou hoa pohewa. E kore tenei tangata e huri i tetahi mea, a ka haere tonu i nga wa katoa te reira ki te piri ki to ratou aho. Whakapono ahau, ki te hiahia koe ngāwari koe e taea te tiki i roto o te kupenga o te whanaungatanga "paitini". Hanga he whiriwhiri mohio, me te noho i tō pūngao i runga i te tangata nei tino tika te reira. Na reira ka ite koe nui!