Iwi pokepoke: me pehea ki te mǎrû te maka o?

I roto i te ora o te katoa i reira he momo rerekē o te iwi i runga i te whanonga, kōrero me te tirohanga. Ka rite ki te kupu haere, he rerekē katoa te iwi. He rorirori, "marama" i roto i te kōrero, me i reira he tangata urutomo. Ko te tino uaua ki te pehea e o, engari e kore e taea tenei kāwai o kōrero me te aroaro o nei. Na, whakaaro te kōwhiringa mō ki te maka o te tangata pokepoke. Ko te whanonga o enei iwi?

Ka rite ki whakakitea iwi pokepoke?

Enei "titi" tino tino ngāwari ki te tāutu i. He tino aroha te iwi pokepoke kukume aro o te whakarongo, te hapori iho. A maha neke atu i te mahi ratou ki te awhina o te pae whai wāhi i roto i te whakahaere te mahi ratou, te whakapai ake mita ka korero, te iritiraa i te aho whakahaere i runga i to ratou tangata. Ki te kore tatou e kōrero e pā ana ki te whakahaere ki te tangata pokepoke, engari e pā ana ki tona aroaro i roto i to outou oraraa, na te mahi tīmata reira katoa! iwi pokepoke aroha ki te haere mai, no te kahore e karangatia ratou, a ka tino ngā, he tino uaua ki te whakaatu i te tatau ki te tatau, no te mea ratou tino e kore e matau ki te tohu ratou, a tae noa ki te korerotia e koutou ki a ratou tonu i roto e he ngenge o ratou ropu koe, ratou ata e taea noho i runga i te toronga .

Ko te pokenga o te tangata taitama kaumeá ranei, na he tino ratou whanonga waea auau, he maha kōrero horihori, haerenga ohorere, roa noa nga wa i muri, tohutohu pokenga me te reka, aroaro nui i roto i te wāhi whaiaro.

Hoki tenei momo o te tangata e hiahia ana koe ki te kitea i te huarahi motuhake ki te kōrero mārama ki a ia ki te kawe e pā ana ki tona aroaro nui me whanonga hairiiri rite he māramatanga tino rawakore o tīwhiri iwi hairiiri.

Ka rite ki fakapotopoto tohu ahau i te tangata e pā ana ki ana obsessions?

Tuatahi e hiahia ana koe ki te uiui lhianga tohu i te meka e whiti te tahi atu tangata etahi rohe, me te riro pokepoke i roto i ō rātou ngākau nuitanga, me ngā tirohanga o te ao. Ka taea te mahi i tēnei e whai ake nei:

• Ko taea ki pai te huri i te kaupapa, me te rave i te reira wa katoa, te taenga atu ano puna urutomo tīmata ki te faaite mai ano.
• Whakamāoritia whakarongo ki te tahi mea ngā e kei roto i te parae o tirohanga, ka ngana ki te kawe i runga i te kōrero e pā ana ki tenei, ki huri kē te kōrero ki etahi kaupapa noa, e kore e taea e ki te whakapuaki i te whakaaro whaiaro ranei tohutohu ranei.

I roto i te piiraa, waha kore ki tohu i te pokenga o te interlocutor, he reira taea ki te tango i mahi ki te hanga i mārama e te tangata urutomo mǎrû.

Tonu e kore e koe tikanga rite te Maketu, me mea e te iwi e ngenge ngenge ranei roa ratou aroaro.

tuatahi taea e koe te haere i roto i taua tikanga:

• Tonu tohu te wa o tona ranei tiaki (hei tauira, "9 E ahau i runga i te maimoatanga o te moe mai ahau wawe rawa wake ake," ranei "i ahau i te 9 hui whakaritea, kia waiho tatou te haora i mua i te reira, na i ahau te wā ki te faaineine" ). Hoki etahi wa i mua i mahue hiahia kia fakamanatu ki e whai koe ki te waiho hohoro. Ka taea e koe te huihui ki te mohio ki te karanga waea pūkoro, ka mea, e wawe Me ki te waiho.
• I roto i te kararehe kia tonu kia he taha o otoheraa huatau i roto i te take e hiahia ana koe ki te "te whakapae" ohorere waiho mo te pakihi.
• Ka taea e koe te huihui ki te taea, ka te tahi atu tangata he ngahau e tika ana, me te ngāwari i raro i te take e hiahia āwhina ranei whakaritea hui te, e mutu te kamupene i te tangata pokepoke wawe. Heoi, e kore e whiwhi tonu reira ki te mahi.
• Ki te kahore mai ki te tangata i te tīwhiri e pā ana ki ana obsessions, korero ia huatau me ki te whakapāha ( "Te tatarahapa nei au, engari e hiahia ana ahau ki te haere, to tatou ki te piu, engari kua tae mai te wa ...").

Ka rite ki fakapotopoto tohu ki te tangata taitama i te mea urutomo ia?

Ētahi iwi taitamariki i roto i te hononga tawhiti rawa ki o ratou aroaro auau i roto i te wāhi whaiaro o te hoa. A tenei wa, rawa, tatou kia kore e ngaro, ranei aro ki, no te mea ka taea e pā reira te hononga, me te arahi ki to ratou whakangaromanga.

Taha, e ārai te pokenga o te hawhe tuarua i roto i te tahi mau taime (takahi o wāhi whaiaro, waea auau, SMS, me te mana, popoki ata whakahaere ia ratou, me te whanonga), Me i roto i te huru māhorahora me te reo marino ki te tīmata i te aparauraa i te tawhiti e pā ana ki te reka me hiahia, a ki te whakaiti i te reira ki taua kia whai ratou ake wāhi, whakawhirinaki me te iti moka o te wa free katoa, e te aroaro nui, me te arai mana, me te ohorere.

Ki te kore i te hawhe tuarua ako i tenei whakahaere tika whakatau, he reira taea ki te whai i te kōrero rite, me te anō-whiua mea katoa kia timata te tangata taitama pokepoke wahine ranei ki te waiho i te kotahi e poka ki tenei pokenga (te huri i ngā tūranga). I roto i tetahi take, nga kōrero ata tohu e poka te pokenga ki te whakaatu o pēhea te tika ara ki te āwhina i te whakatika i te tahi mea hōhā i roto i te whanonga o te tangata.

Me pēhea te ki te fakapotopoto kia whakakahoretia o hoa hōhā?

Ki te whai koe i kaumeá pokepoke, he uaua i roto i te porohita pāpori te āhuatanga. Ko te tikanga matau enei kōtiro whakauaua nä ki to ratou pokenga, a ki a ratou ko reira uaua ki te kawe i. Ko tikanga whai hua tonu i reira!

• Whakawhitia whakarongo ki tetahi atu tangata e kia hiahia i roto i te kaumeá pokepoke.
• Tīmata ki te whakamōhio ia ratou rite urutomo rite ko reira i te wa ano tiki ake aua taime i te mea e tino fiemālie, me te kore e whai wa ki te tango i a koutou ki te haere ki ranei noho me te kōrero. I muri i te torutoru nga wa o tenei whanonga ka karo reira koutou kamupene, ko te kupu kia whakakahoretia o te pokenga, o iho a kahore i matau i te reira.
• I roto i te kōrero i reira rawa te kaha ngana kaumeá pokepoke ki te tiki ki te ora whaiaro ki aku pātai, me te tohutohu, e hiahia ana koe o nga wa i te tokorua ki te tau'a ore te pare te whakahoki pātai ranei ranei. Ka mau i te puka o "wairangi turi", ka taea e hanga e koe mārama reira e kore e e hiahia ana ki te whakautu i ngā pātai ranei korero taua mea whaiaro.
• Ki te kahore e matau tīwhiri, timata ki te ui, ka tohutohu rite kaha rite ko ia. Karangatia a tuhituhi te wa katoa tono e pā ana ki taua taime, e kore e hiahia ana ia ki te korero (engari e hiahia ana koe i te moka ki te mau me te titiro i te reira ki te tautuhi e kore e tino pai nga kaupapa ki a ia).
• Marie a tika mea e te hoa, ko te rawa nui piki o tūmataiti (engari ko te take tino i roto i nei te whanonga pokepoke o te tangata haere rohe katoa o te manawanui, rite taea arahi reira ki inoino me taumahatanga tenei).

Ki te maka o te iwi e tino urutomo

He hoki taua "kape". I roto i te take, ina kua he hapori i te iwi rawa pokepoke, me te pānga o ratou whanonga te hauora me te pūnaha io, kia whakakahoretia atu o ratou e hiahia ana ki te tino me tūturu. mutu ratou Just tetahi kōrero, ki te karo i to ratou ropu. I muri i kore te iwi urutomo rawa e matau tetahi tīwhiri ka tae nga kupu tika a ratou anake mahi uruhi, ara te mutunga o te hononga ranei.

Ka rite ki atu ata whatiia atu whanaunga ki te tangata pokepoke?

I mua i mutu koe ki te kōrero ki ētahi atu pokepoke, o te akoranga, ka taea ki te ngana ki te kawe i ki a ia, he aha, he aha, me pehea pā te wahi pakaru i roto i te kōrero. Kia vavahi-kotahi mana'o te iti ahau i roto i to koutou wahi. Ko te nuinga pea, ka waiho hei ururua o te wā.

Kia tino ki te tohutohu i tona hoa hou, ko wai, ahakoa iti oreore mo ki te manawanui kōrero ki te tangata pokepoke.

He aha te ki te huri i te reira ngohengohe kore ki whatiia atu whanaunga ki te tangata rawa pokepoke?

Ki te kahore i enei tikanga i matau e te tangata, he mea e tika ana ki te tīmata ki te tau'a ore i te reira, e kore whakahoki waea waea me te SMS, e kore whakatuwhera te tatau ki te whare, tika ki te mea e he ngenge koe, e ngenge koe ranei hohoro koutou ranei.

Mai te tangata rawa hairiiri hohoro atu, e taea te whiwhi koe maka o, engari kua tino tika mea e tona kōrero rohirohi, me te whakaritea ai. Ko tētahi atu huarahi, e kore ratou e matau no te mea he ratou urutomo rawa, na kia kia nekehia atu e ratou i to ratou hapori.

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Ki te maka o te obsessions o iwi?

1. Ki te kore he tino urutomo he tangata, e taea te mahi i te reira ki te awhina o te tīwhiri i roto i te kōrero e pā ana ki tona whanonga.
2. Ki te kahore i matau i te tangata, he tīwhiri, timata ki te tikanga rite ia (ki te karanga, ka haere mai i waho i te aniraa, me te roa te wa ki te kia atu, toaruaru nei ratou whakahaere, ara, ki te te tangata e taea e kore a e kore e hiahia ana ki te tomo i te kōrero). Ka rite ki te mea ratou, whawhai ahi ki te ahi!
3. Ki te tangata rawa pokepoke he kahakore katoa o nga tikanga i runga ake, na i hiahia taua iwi ki te maka koi a tūturu (kaua e tango i te waea, e kore e whakatuwhera te tatau ki te mea e tona kamupene toaruaru nei ranei tika).

tīwhiri āwhina

E kia kōwhiringa whai hua ake te wahi e koe me ētahi atu huringa urutomo urutomo te wahi, me te i ngangau ai ia rite nui rite ai ia koutou. Na ka tango te rāwaho te wahi o te tetahi riro ia, a āta tīmata ki te matau e he pokepoke tona whanonga.

I mua i timata koe koi ki te tiki hapori maka o te tangata penei, e hiahia ana koe te tuatahi ki te ako i te reira i te iti, kia rite kore ki te kino ia rawa nui ia, engari i te wa ano e hoatu he ahua motuhake, ko ngenge ia, a kua kawea mai e koe kē ki mehua tino!

Ko, kāore, i reira he tangata pokepoke nei e, a kahore e matau. Na e hiahia ana te iwi ki te korero "te parau mau mania" i roto i te kanohi. Otiia tuatahi kia e kore e kino te reira hauora o tō tamaiti ranei! Oia mau, kia ai taua mea pono e riro te tangata pokepoke i korerotia nei tika e pā ana ki tona intrusiveness nui, kino, ka, mai ko ia morare ngoikore, tīmata reira ki te kino a ratou ano ranei, hei kōrero, halaiá riri me te kohukohu atu noa!

Ko pai ano, te taenga atu ano riro te reira mārama e te tangata urutomo tonu ki ketia ia i tona tangata, ara i roto i nga tīmatanga o te kōrero!