Me pēhea te ki te whakahaere i te iwi: kaimātai hinengaro poroporoaki

Hoki te angitu i roto i te mahi, pakihi, me te ora whaiaro ētahi wā he kore nui ki te e taea ki te whakatū i whakapā ki ētahi atu iwi, me te ki te pato'ii te haavare,. I te tahi taime e hiahia ana koe ki te taea ki te haere i runga i te ino.

Tenei ngā me tino ataahua mō te iwi kaha-hiakai, te pātai - me pehea ki te whakahaere i te iwi - tonu māngai māharahara o ngaio rerekē: kaiwhakahaere, kaitōrangapū, sectarians, psychotherapists me kaipakihi. Kua whakaratohia e te tono tiketike mō taua matauranga e rave rahi pūtaiao ako te take: tuatahi, whakahaere me te hinengaro.

Na inaianei ko te pātai - me pehea ki te whakahaere i te iwi, he maha ngā whakautu. pūkete taua whawhe mō te 90% o ngā huarahi e fa'ahinga whakaaro katoa o te whakahaere i te iwi. He whai hua me te ngāwari ratou, rite e hāngai ana ratou i runga i ture hinengaro. tangata katoa i raro ki te mau mana'o tatou i te tahi taime i reira e hao, ka hiahia katoa āhukahuka me te whakaute. I roto i tenei tākaro, me pūmana - i runga i mana'o taketake me ngā hiahia o te tangata.

Ka taea e te toe 10% e hoatu e te ture i te "pūnaha pūngao" pera-ka karanga. Me pēhea te ki te kitea piri o tenei ariā ke (unscientific): i reira kei roto i te ao i te hinengaro teitei me i mo reira, ka taea e koe te wahi i noa i te whanaungatanga pirinoa, me te riro i te kaiwhakahaere o tona ora, ko o te iwi a tawhio noa ratou i te whakarau. Energy werau i huaina piri o te ariā o te hunga e ako pehea ki te hono ki te pūngao o te iwi a tawhio noa ratou, kia kai i te reira mo te painga o ratou. e kore te tēnei ariā wä e hāngai ana i runga i pūtaiao ahu, ka kï ture o whanonga tangata, rite te ātete ki te whawhe. Ko he reira ia tonu, a na rite iwi kuware tino anake te mea te reira fafau hua nohopuku. Ko, Aue, anake mahi a taea matauranga hinengaro hoatu koe te mea e hiahia ana koe.

Ko te kaha ki te whakahaere i te iwi - ko reira te hawhe te angitu i roto i ao katoa o te ora te tangata. Ko kahore he mea whakamiharo e hiahia ana te katoa ki te ake i te tikanga tino o raraunga.

No reira, he pātai hou - me pehea ki te ako ki te whakahaere i te iwi? he ta'e whakahoki hinengaro: i roto i te wā tino, ki te rāwekeweke me te kore kino. Ko te parau tumu matua o nga piri o pūtaiao ngākau tenei. Heoi, mahue māngai o te tahi atu ngaio enei kupu e mawehe. Na kaiwhakahaere, me ngā kaitōrangapū e hiahia anake i roto i te 100 hua% ki te whakatutuki i tēnei whāinga.

Na reira, ko te mahi e kore anake whawhe ohie (he mea hipoko ta rahirahi, te tākaro i runga i te mau mana'o tūturu i roto i ia, mo te tauira, i runga i te hiahia ki te pai, ki te kia mohio), engari ano hoki patua hinengaro matatini whakahaua i te tangata motuhake, tango ki pūkete ana āhuatanga hinengaro. huaina te whakaeke ko pera ano te mea o ona piki kaha ki te wā, whakarato i te hua pūmau o te mahi āta i runga i te tahi atu tangata. muia te "tano" tauira te nuinga o te whakaeke taua te i roto i te kōrero pai-mohiotia: "He teka, he maha nga wa tukurua, riro te reira i te parau mau."

I roto i nga tau tata nei, whakaputaina akoranga oro, i whakawhanakehia pukapuka whakaahua ngā tikanga whawhe me ngā hōtaka whakangungu motuhake (hei tauira, hoko tikanga tikanga ranei ki te kōrero tōtika ki te kiritaki Realtor). Ko te tikanga whakamutunga ko te whakangungu whai hua tino. I roto i te rōpū o te iwi ngakau ki te ako i te whawhe o te whakangungu, ia kaiuru i roto i mahi riro te pūkenga e tika ana. E kawea ratou anake ki te taumata o ngā pūkenga.

Ae, i reira he he torutoru tinihanga, me pehea ki te whakahaere i te iwi. Rangatira ratou katoa taea. E mea titauhia ki te whakangungu tonu etahi katoa, mo te wheako tuatahi, a ka hoki te whakaaro ki o te whāinga ngā matua. Ko te mea utu reira? I muri i te katoa, e kore e whiwhi iwi atamai ki te whawhe (i te iti rawa ohie), a ka ngaro koe i te whakawhirinaki o whanaunga, hoa, hoa, hoa ...

He pai nui ki te ako ki te whiriwhiri, te matapaki pono nga raruraru, o ratou hiahia ki te hoa tata, me te ara hoa. Ko te aha hanga te hononga kaha: Understanding i runga i (titiro hoki whenua noa), i runga i te kaha ki te takahi i (ngākau nuitanga noa), i runga i te kaha ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro, me te tango i tetahi atu o.

I tua atu, te mana i runga i etahi he mōrearea. tahuri ia tona matenga, a ka ngaro āta koutou te tangata: ko te kaha ki te aroha, mamae. E horo'a te reira matua ki to ratou ake ngākau nuitanga anake. Ko kia mahara ai e kore te mea Nireaha ki te iwi whakahaere ngoikore,. Takitaha ko te kau o te ngoikore. Na tutaki mahana raweke te tuakiri kaha a ka waiho ano he patunga o ...

Na hei utu o rapu mo te whakahoki ki te pātai o te pehea, ki te whakahaere pai ake iwi ako ki te tiaki i ratou ki te haavare, me te ki whakatenatena faitotonú, poihere i te hononga whakawhirinaki.