Kāinga me te Whānau, Whakangungu
Nga momo me momo o ohake i roto i te utuafare
Tino maha, te iwi e whai tamariki, rapu i te awhina o kaimātai hinengaro. Me te Dads ui nga tohunga, me pehea i ratou tamariki tino taea e huru maitatai houhou, te whanonga kino. He wāhi tino hira i roto i auaha tuakiri nui whakatipu. Mai tona kāhua me te momo o te mau metua tīpakohia, tei runga i te āhua o ngā tamariki, ratou ora i mua nei. He aha ngā tikanga me ngā puka o te mātauranga e whakamahia? I roto i tenei pātai ko ki te matau, no te mea ka whai hua ki te mohio ngā mātua katoa te whakahoki.
He aha te mātauranga me te aha momo kei reira?
Kua puta te kupu "te mātauranga" i roto i te kupu o te iwi mo te wa roa. Taunakitanga o tenei ko nga tuhinga Slavic teiti i 1056 i roto i a ratou i kitea tuatahi ki te whakaaro i te ariā. I aua ra i piri te kupu "mātauranga" ki taua uara rite "aupuru", "kaiwhakangote", a muri mai i whakamahia ai "ki te whakaako" i roto i te uara.
I muri mai i hoatu tenei ariā he rota o tikanga rerekē e tohunga rerekē. Ki te tātari koe ratou, e nehenehe tatou e te mea e mātauranga - ko:
- hanganga o te tuakiri e he pai ki te hapori, me te e ka e taea ki te ora i roto i reira, e kore e ape i te tahi atu iwi, e kore e katia i roto ano;
- te tauhohe i kaitiaki me te educability;
- ako tukanga.
Mau metua mau mai i ake ratou tamariki, maha e kore e whakaaro e pā ana ki te whakahaere o tenei tukanga. mahi ratou rite te pūmanawa o te wheako ora. Mämä noa iho, me te Dads e whakatairanga tama me tamahine rite whiwhi ratou i te reira. Ko te kupu, e whakapono ana te whānau i ia ki te kāhua ngā tamariki. mahino tenei tohunga wā te tauira motuhake o nga whanaunga o te mau metua ki ratou tamaiti.
He maha whakarōpū o momo tiaki tamariki. fokotu'u tetahi o ratou Diana Baumrind. Kua tāutuhia tēnei kaimātai hinengaro American te tabulahia i whai i raro momo tiaki tamariki i roto i te utuafare:
- fakaaoao;
- mana;
- ohaoha.
I roto i te heke mai, kua tenei whakarōpū kua tapiritia. whai wāhi Eleonora Makkobi me Dzhon Martin tetahi kāhua o whakatipu tamariki i roto i te utuafare. I huaina e ia tau'a ore. Ētahi puna taua ngā e whakamahia ana ki te kōrero ki tenei tauira rite "gipoopeka", "kāhua tau'a ore." Kei raro taipitopito nga momo tiaki tamariki, āhuatanga o ia o ratou.
kāhua fakaaoao o te mātauranga whānau
Ētahi o ngā mātua pupuri ratou tamariki i roto i te pakeke, whakamahia tikanga pakeke me ngā puka o te mātauranga. hoatu e ratou a ratou arata'iraa tamariki, me tatari ratou tupuraa. I roto i taua mau utuafare, i reira e tino tikanga me ngā ture. Me whakarite i te katoa ngā tamariki, e kore e ki te tautohe. A, no te hapa, me te whanonga hē, whiua te rirotanga matua ratou tamariki, e kore e tangohia e ki pūkete e kore e ui ratou whakaaro ki te hoatu i tetahi whakamāramatanga. he kāhua taua o te mātauranga whānau i huaina fakaaoao.
I roto i tenei tauira, rawa iti mana motuhake o ngā tamariki. Mau metua e piri ki tenei kāhua o te mātauranga, whakaaro ahau e ka tupu ratou tamaiti ake talangofua, whakahaere, kawenga, me te nui. Heoi, he tino ohorere hoki, me te Dads te hua whakamutunga:
- Active, me te kaha i roto i te huru, timata tamariki ki te whakapuaki ia ratou, te tikanga i roto i te taiohi. tutu ratou, whakaatu fakaaoao, tautohetohe ki ngā mātua, moemoea o te haere noa, me te motuhake, me hoki maha rere atu i te kāinga i tēnei take.
- tamariki pāhekeheke whakarongo ki o ratou matua, he wehi o ratou, wehi o te whiu. I roto i te heke mai, enei iwi tahuri atu ki te hei whaiaro kore-, whakamā, mawehe atu, me te pouri.
- tupu ētahi tamariki ake, tangohia te tauira o te mau metua - te waihanga i te utuafare, rite ki te hunga e tupu ratou, a ka pupuri i nga wahine me ngā tamariki i roto i te pakeke.
Ko te kāhua mana o te mātauranga whānau
Tenei tauira tohunga i roto i te tahi mau mātāpuna kōrero ki te wā "kāhua metua manapori", "mahi tahi", i te mea he reira te pai tino mo te hanganga o te tuakiri pai. hāngai ana tēnei kāhua o te tiaki tamariki kei runga i te hononga mahana, me te taumata tika tiketike o te mana. E tonu ngā mātua tuwhera ki kōrero, rapu ki te matapaki me te whakatau tahi me o ratou tamariki raruraru katoa. E akiakitia ana, me te Dads motuhake tama, he tamahine, engari i roto i ētahi wā kia tohu e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi i. whakarongo tamariki ki matau nga kaumatua te kupu "pau".
Nā ki te kāhua mana o ngā tamariki tamariki riro hapori taunga. e kore e wehi ki te kōrero ki ētahi atu ratou taea ki te kitea te reo noa, he. taea kāhua tamariki mana ki a koe tupu takitahi motuhake, me te māia ki tiketike kiritau-me te kaha ki te mana-whaiaro.
Ko te kāhua mana - tauira pai o te tiaki tamariki. Heoi, te fafauraa tino otiia houhou reira. Hoki te tamaiti i te wawe tau he Mana e tika ana, me te whai hua raweke i to ratou mau metua. Hei tauira, Me mama e papa ki tohu tō tamaiti ki te whanonga kino, me te rapu utu ia ki te ū ki tetahi tikanga pāpori me ngā ture.
Ko te tauira ohaoha o whanaunga
kitea ohaoha kāhua (peneitanga) tauhi fānaú te i roto i te mau utuafare i reira e tino faaore nga matua. kōrero ratou ki a ratou tamariki, whakaaetia mea katoa te ki a ratou, e kore e whakaturia tetahi rāhui, e ngana ana ki te whakaatu te aroha mutunga mo ratou tama me ana tamahine.
Tamariki e tupu ake i roto i te mau utuafare ki te tauira ohaoha o whanaunga, i nga āhuatanga e whai ake nei:
- He maha pukuriri, rere totoa ratou;
- rapu ki te kahore, ki te whakakahore koe;
- aroha ratou ki te whakaatu atu;
- e kore e ratou rite te mahi tinana, me te hinengaro;
- whakaatu whakawhirinaki wahi e anga mālohi;
- pakanga ki ētahi atu iwi e kore e hema ratou.
Tino maha, te ngoikore o ngā mātua ki te aroturuki hua o to ratou tamaiti i roto i te meka e kitea e ia ia i roto i ngā rōpū ngaahi fasí '. I te tahi taime te kāhua ohaoha o te whakatipu arata'i ki hua pai. Ētahi tamariki, e mohio ana ki te haere noa, me te motuhake o te tamaiti, e tupu ake iwi kaha, takoto, me te auaha (arā, pehea ko reira tangata e riro tei te tamaiti ngā i runga i nga āhuatanga o tona huru, āhua tūturu).
kāhua tau'a o tamaiti-ohi i roto i te utuafare
I roto i tenei tauira tu i roto i taua āhuatanga rite mau metua tau'a me tamariki mamae. E ite ore ki a ratou tama, me nga tamahine, me te Dads, makariri hamani ratou, e kore e whakaatu tiaki, aroha me te aroha, nohoia anake i to ratou mau fifi. e kore e tamariki whāiti. kahore ratou e mohio ki tetahi kawa. kihai i werohia ratou ariā pērā i "pai", "aroha", na kahore nga tamariki e whakaatu tetahi aroha mo kararehe ranei ētahi atu iwi.
Ētahi o ngā mātua e kore anake ki te whakaatu i to ratou tau'a engari riri. ite tamariki i roto i te taua mau utuafare he tika. whakaatu ratou whanonga Deviant ki ponana haamou.
Ko te whakarōpū o ngā momo o te mātauranga whānau i runga i Eidemiller me Yustiskisu
wāhi nui i roto i te hanganga o te tuakiri whai he momo o te mātauranga te utuafare. Ko te huru o orientations me ngā waiaro o ngā mātua uara, te pā ana aronganui ki te tamaiti tenei. hanga E. G. Eydemiller ko vv Yustiskis he whakarōpū o whanaunga, i tāutuhia te maha o ngā momo taketake e tohu i te mātauranga o tamariki me nga kotiro:
- Indulges giperprotektsiya. te arotahi katoa hapu ko i runga i te tamaiti. rapu ngā mātua ki te makona ana hiahia me hiahia katoa, e hiahia ana ki te whakarite i a te whakatinana i te moe.
- Ko te giperprotektsiya tino. Ko te tamaiti i roto i te whāiti. Kei te tiaki ai tonu ngā mātua. He iti te motuhake o te tamaiti, no te mea mama me te wa papa ki wa hoatu e ia i tetahi here me ngā here.
- Kino-maimoatanga. E whakahaerehia ana te whānau i te maha nui o ngā kerēme. kia unquestioningly mahi ratou tamaiti. Hoki te tutu, hiahia, rahunga me te whanonga kino aru e te whiu nui.
- Waiho noa. Ki tenei momo o te whakatipu whānau o te tamaiti mahue ki a ia. Mama e papa kore e tiaki e pā ana ki reira, e kore e hiahia ana i roto ia ratou, e kore i roto i te mana o ana mahi.
- Nui haere fatongia morare. e kore e ngā mātua utu nui aro ki te tamaiti. Heoi, kia ratou taua mea ki whakaritenga morare teitei.
- makanga aronganui. Kei te Mātauranga taea te kawea ki waho i te momo o "Cinderella." Ngā mātua kaikiri me te waniwani ki te tamaiti. e kore e hoatu e ratou aroha, te aroha me te mahana. Heoi, he tino picky ratou ki to ratou tamaiti, rapu ia ki te ū ki te tikanga, ngā kōrero tuku iho subordination utuafare.
Ko te whakarōpū o ngā momo o Garbuzova mātauranga
VI Garbuzov tuhia te tūranga whakatakotoria o te mau mana mātauranga i roto i auaha i te āhuatanga o te āhua tamaiti. Ko te tohunga tāutuhia 3 momo o te mātauranga o ngā tamariki i roto i te utuafare:
- e kore e hiahia i roto i te āhuatanga takitahi o te tamaiti Momo A. ngā mātua. kihai i tangohia e ratou ki pūkete, e kore e rapu i ki te whakawhanake. He tūturu i roto i tenei momo o te mana tino, te whakapanga o te tamaiti anake whanonga tika Mātauranga.
- Momo B. āhuatanga tēnei mātauranga kōwhiringa e manukanuka-hypochondriac ariā o ngā mātua e pā ana ki te āhua o te hauora o te tamaiti, me tona mana pāpori, e tatari ana ki te angitu i roto i te kura, me te mahi heke mai.
- Patoa B matua, whanaunga katoa e whakarongo ki te tamaiti. Ko ia te whakapakoko o te utuafare. E tutaki ētahi wā ana ngā hiahia katoa me hiahia ki te whara o melo o te utuafare, me ētahi atu.
Investigation Clemence
tāutuhia kairangahau Swiss i raro i te aronga o Clemence nga momo tiaki tamariki e whai ake nei i nga tamariki i roto i te utuafare:
- Fakahinohino. I roto i tenei kāhua, ko te hapu e hanga whakatau katoa e te mau metua. mahi tamaiti - ki te tango ia ratou, ki te whakarite i ngā whakaritenga katoa.
- Whakauru. Ka taea e te tamaiti te whakatau i te tahi mea e pā ana ki koe. Heoi, i roto i te utuafare i reira he he torutoru ture whānui. hiahiatia ana te tamaiti te ki te ū ki a ratou. Kore, te whakamahi i ngā mātua whiu.
- Tuku. e te tamaiti ana whakatau ake. e kore e ngā mātua tamata ki faahepo ratou ngā o tirohanga. e kore e ratou utu i nui aro ki a ia kia rite ki te roa rite kore e tona whanonga arahi ki raruraru nui.
mātauranga Disharmonious me tahi
Ka taea te whakarōpū katoa o nga momo tiaki tamariki i roto i te utuafare, me ngā momo ki te 2 ngā rōpū tenei mātauranga disharmonious me tahi. He etahi āhuatanga e tohua i roto i te ripanga i raro ia rōpū.
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He aha i roto i te tahi mau utuafare i reira he mātauranga disharmonious?
whakamahi ngā mātua momo disharmonious o momo tiaki tamariki, me te whānau. Tenei tupu hoki take rerekē. Tenei huru ora, me huru me ngā raruraru kohatu o ngā mātua hou, me roa'toa. I roto i te take matua mātauranga disharmonious ko te whai ake:
- ngä runga ake 'ulungaanga houhou o te tamaiti;
- mana'o mātua taramore;
- ta'emalu mātauranga o ngā mātua;
- te aroaro o te wehi o te ngaro i te tamaiti.
Ko te take tuarua tuhia i runga ake puta i roto i aua iwi e kore e nei i ite i roto i te mahana mātua kōhungahunga. e kore ratou e hiahia ki te mahi ki te tamaiti, e ngana ana ki te noho iti wa ki a ratou, e kore e ki te kōrero, na whakamahia ratou kāhua kotiro o te whakatipu whānau tamariki. Ano hoki tenei take i reira ko te rota o te iwi taitamariki kihai i psychologically rite ki te puta i roto i te ora o to ratou tamaiti nei.
whakatika papû ore Mātauranga, rite ki te tikanga, whai tuakiri ngoikore. e kore ngā mātua ki te drawback tangohia ngā whakaritenga motuhake mo te tamaiti, makona ana hiahia katoa, e kore hoki ratou e taea e kore. He mema iti o te whānau kua kite i te wahi ngoikore i māmā me te papa, me whakamahi tenei, rapu ki te whakarite i te reira i te mōrahi me tika mōkito herenga.
Ki te reira te mea he phobia o mate o ngā mātua ite whakaraeraetanga o ratou tamaiti. whakaaro ratou e ko te reira he pakarukaru, ngoikore, e mate ana. tiaki ratou ia. No te mea o taua rite reira kotiro momo tiaki tamariki taiohi rite e faautu'a me giperprotektsiya ngoi.
He aha te mea he mātauranga whānau pai?
A, no te tango mau metua te whakatipu tahi o te tamaiti i te mea he ia. e kore ratou e tamata ki te whakatika i ona kohakore iti, e kore te reira tangohia te aha te tahi mau whanonga. E whakahaerehia ana te whānau i te maha iti o ngā ture me here e ū ki nga mea katoa. tutaki ngā matea o te tamaiti e i roto i rohe whaitake (kahore e hiahia ki te tahi atu melo o te utuafare 'tukunoa'i takahia ranei).
A, no te whiriwhiri te whakatipu tahi o te tamaiti ona ara ake o te whanaketanga. Mama e papa e kore e hanga haere ia ki etahi porowhita auaha, ki te kahore ia i hiahia ki te. ākina te motuhake o te tamaiti te. mātua homai anake te tohutohu e tika ana ki te tika.
Ki he tahi mātauranga, kia matua:
- kitea tonu te wā ki te kōrero ki te tamaiti;
- hiahia i roto i ona angitu me rahunga, ki te āwhina akakoromaki i etahi raruraru;
- e kore e hoatu te pēhanga ki runga ki te tamaiti, e kore e ki te tangohia tona mata ake o te tirohanga;
- hamani i te tamaiti kia rite ki te mema e rite ana o te hapu;
- faatupu i roto i ngā tamariki e ngaahi 'ulungaanga mahu'inga rite aroha, aroha, te faatura no vetahi.
I roto i te mutunga, ko reira ia tapao e he mea nui ki te whiriwhiri i nga momo matau o momo tiaki tamariki, me te whānau. I tei tenei te ara i roto i nei e waiho te tamaiti te mea e ia i muri te ora, ka kōrero ranei ia ki ētahi atu iwi, ki te kore e te mawehe atu ia, me te uncommunicative. I roto i tenei take, e hiahia ana ngā mātua ki te ia kia tino ki mahara e te kī ki te mātauranga whai hua ko te aroha o te mema iti o te whānau, moni i roto i reira, hoa, pakanga-free huru i roto i te whare.
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