Ko te tokorua - he whānau, kia e waiho hei pa mo nga tamariki, me hoki ratou

Kei te haere matara hapori hou i te hapori i tahito ra. Ka rite ki te nui rite hiahia tatou ki te whakaatu i te whakawhanakehia ake ka taunga ki te ora i roto i tenei ao, ko tatou tonu te iwi nei e neke i te taua kare, wehi, wheako, me whakaaro huritao. Ko te rerekētanga anake i roto i te waho anga me te ka atu te matauranga o meka pūtaiao. Otiia i roto i te meka e tatou te iwi tahito taua, nei whainga te tino nui, me te whiwhi i roto i mōkihi.

E rave rahi o koutou e whakaaro te reira toku ohipa ki te turaki i tenei whakaaro, whakaaro ratou te nui atu whaitake. Engari titiro a tawhio noa, huri noa i te "pikitia". tonu tatou ki "unu te tino nui," te mahi ia rā o te toro. Hoki te "kiri", e taea te hoatu ki runga, e haere tatou ki te akona, te whakamahi i te Pū hei utu o te tao, me te kai i tonu whakamahana ake i roto i te ahi. Kahore he mawhiti, a ka tīmata i te utuafare. O te akoranga, te tangata tahito reira he iti tikanga i roto i te hinengaro o te faaipoiporaa, Heoi, i matau kua te hiahia ki te rapu hoki, me te rokiroki i te rua. Ahakoa te ōrite o te runga ake, kua meinga matou nui mātau, engari no te mea me tiaki te faanahoraa o te faaipoiporaa, me te whakapai ake. He aha e na taata e rave rahi e wareware e pā ana ki reira, whakangaro tona ora te utuafare me te hunga aroha?

Ko wai e nga hoa faaipoipo?

Ko te tokorua - he tane, me te wahine, e ko te iwi e kua marenatia,. He rerekētanga nui rite ki te karanga e kore e enei iwi i, ki te kahore e te "wahine" - te ingoa o te atu ōkawa, ko te "tane", "wahine" - motu. I te taumata kāwanatanga, he reira tangata, me te wahine e kua te whakaturengia ngā ratou hononga mā te rēhita ratou i roto i te tari rēhita. E mea pinepine, Heoi, ko te tane, te wahine (tane, te wahine), i muri i maha nga tau o te faaipoiporaa, mahara anake e pā ana ki te taha ki te ture o to ratou hononga faaipoiporaa. A te reira pouri. I muri i te tokorua - e kore te reira te iwi tika e whai i te wahi o te pepa ki te herenga tahi me tika here. Ko te matua tenei he haumi wewete, kua tomo nei ki e rua iwi î i te here.

He aha e mau faaipoiporaa kore? e mea he e takoto nga take i runga i te mata, me ia tangata te utuafare, titiro ki a ratou, whakahaere hoki i tona ringa, me te mea e matau ana kua e pā ana ki reira. Otiia, e kore e tenei whakamōhiotia ia, a kihai meinga ki te whakaaro anō rātou huru. whakaaro tatou ake āta ako koe ratou, kia rite ki te kore ki te hanga hape e kua toutou whakatupuranga i muri whakatupuranga o te iwi.

kore o te matauranga

e mea he taua take, kaua banal me te mea e te mo'ehia. Couples uaua kite i roto i tahi i te tahi i tetahi āhuatanga. E mea pinepine e kore ratou e kite e ratou - rawa i te iwi rerekē whakaaro hotokore i runga i te ora me te mahere heke mai. Ko te parau "te pato'iraa kukume" kore e mahi i roto i te wā katoa. Well, ka whai te hoa faaipoipo ngākau nuitanga rerekē, runaruna, mahi i roto i te mutunga. Na i reira he tonu te tahi mea ki te kōrero e pā ana ki a faaite ki tou kotahi whiriwhiri. Ki te he atu aronganui, me te tahi atu tetahi hoa - he marino, ka āwhina i te reira ki te whakatau i te nuinga o ngā papā. Otiia ki te, hei tauira, ona mahere mō te metua vahine i muri tonu te faaipoiporaa, engari ia i kore whakaaro reira e tika ana ki te whai tamariki tae noa ki tae ratou te taahiraa runga o te arawhata umanga, nga taumahatanga o te rua ka waiho uaua ki te noho. Ko kotahi noa tauira iti o te mea faaipoiporaa e taea kore tenei, a i roto i te meka take pērā kore e tatau tika.

kōrero mō ngā take

He mea nui ki te āta whakatata te hanga o te utuafare, me te kōwhiri i te hoa, e kore ki te marena i te wawe tau, a ka titiro ki tetahi ki tetahi. Ki te te kē hanga te whiriwhiri, ngana ki te matapaki i nga tautohetohe katoa a kitea he ngātahitia, reira me haere mai i roto i, ki te haafaufaa koe tou tetahi i whiriwhiri. Kaua e wareware ki te kōrero tika me te faaite i to ratou mau iteraa, no te mea maha mahia te kore o te matauranga te hinaaro ore banal ki te whai wāhi i roto i te kōrero. Kaua e wareware e te wahine - ko te muri ki tetahi ki tetahi iwi. E rongo tonu ratou.

Tama o faaipoipo, faaipoipo o ngā tamariki

Ētahi iwi whakapono e he oti he faaipoiporaa, ki te kahore te tokorua e whai tamariki. Heoi, i roto i ētahi wā, he tamariki e taea anake tūkino whanaunga i waenganui i nga hoa. Hei tauira, kia noa kia hinengaro rokohanga mo te whanautanga o te tamaiti kotahi hoa faaipoipo. Times, ina e hanga marenatia i roto i te 18 tau, me te 20 i tamariki, ka anga hapori ki te titiro titaha ai i, kua ranei. I roto i te ao i teie mahana, e te katoa te reira whakatau rawa ana. kia tētahi atu raruraru, a pūtea pai-te. Te whakatairanga i te tamaiti ko te tino utu, te utuafare pai-oranga e taea "kai", rite ki te mea ratou, te ora. kia rite mō te tamariki Family (tane, te wahine) e rua morare a pūtea. Kore, e kore e taea e te hoa akakoromaki i hinga te waipuke ki runga ki to ratou mau fifi. Heoi, ka taea e ngangare hanga nga tama e kore e anake o te hoa faaipoipo. Hoa faaipoipo me tamariki te hanga pakanga i roto i te utuafare, no te mea ki te māngai pōtitia o koutou tamariki, ko hoki nui ki te kitea te reo noa.

Family - Ko te pa

Take pērā i te taiata kore o te kanorau i roto i te ora fakasekisualé ranei, kihai i matou whakaaro, kia rite ki te hunga enei raruraru i runga i te mata, a konei ko tei katoa i runga i tou whiriwhiri tika, a kihai i te āhuatanga o nāianei. I roto i tetahi take he mea nui ki te mahara e te wahine - he māori ki tahi i te tahi mau taata e hiahia tonu ana ki te hei te faaitoitoraa, me te tautoko. Ki te hoki tetahi take e kore koutou e ite i te hiahia ki te whakaaro tino mehemea kahore ranei ki te mau tonu i te hononga taua.